Joanna Yeates: Murder at Christmas

Exclusive documentary examining the shocking murder of Bristol landscape architect Joanna Yeates, who was strangled in her flat by Vincent Tabak in December 2010. Including interviews with Joanna's parents, initial suspect landlord Chris Jeffries, and those involved in solving the case. Never before had a missing pizza, grey sock and 293 tonnes of domestic rubbish played such an important part in a murder investigation. But this was all the police had to go on when 25-year-old landscape architect Joanna Yeates went missing on 17 December 2010.

Living above Joanna and Greg was their landlord Chris Jefferies. Described "as an eccentric pillar of society" he was a retired 65-year-old English teacher. Also a member of the local neighbourhood watch group, it was alleged that Jefferies had seen three people, including Joanna, leave her flat the night she disappeared. He would go on to play a key part in the hunt for the killer.

Joanna and Greg's next door neighbour was Vincent Tabak, a 33-year-old Dutch national. Described as an "introverted loner" as a child, he had grown up in Uden, Holland. After gaining his masters degree and later a PhD in engineering he moved to the UK. He worked in nearby Bath and lived with his girlfriend, Tanja Morson. The events on the night of 17 December would change his life forever. Joanna Yeates could not know she was living next to a human time-bomb ticking towards murder.

Vincent Tabak spent hundreds of hours trawling pornographic sites learning the best way to kill...and then he set about his task.In Joanna Yeates: Murder at Christmas we meet the people who lived through one of the most compelling crime stories of the decade.It emerged that Joanna's killer was an online fetishist who spent hours watching violent pornography. Psychologist Emma Scott outlines why some men are susceptible to online-addiction and gradually find the line between reality and fantasy blurred.

We also hear from former police detective, Mark Williams Thomas, on why his criticism of Avon and Somerset Police led to him being banned from media conferences. He explains the challenges that were faced by the Police as well as the mistakes that were made.

And we travel to Holland to hear from those who lived alongside Tabak; the man who broke a nation's heart and left a family forever without their 'ray of sunshine.'

Knowing how to let go of someone you love is tough, but you’re not alone if you’re holding on to the past! It’s hard to let go, my friend.

These tips for letting go and moving on apply to all types of loss, and include resources for healing a broken heart.

Before the tips, a quip:
“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting them back together.” ~ Unknown.

This is one of my favorite quotations on letting go because it’s true – sometimes it’s worse (in the long run) to try to get back together. Sometimes you need to keep forging ahead, and learn to survive heartbreak.

Here are a few tips for letting go of someone you love…

How to Let Go of Someone You Love

If you feel hopeless and depressed, read 75 Ways to Let Go of Someone You Love. I interviewed psychologists, life coaches, counselors, and grief experts on the best ways to cope with and heal from loss.

Remember both the good and the bad parts of the relationship

When you’ve lost someone you love, it’s easy to focus on the great parts of your relationship and life together. But, there was a reason you broke up — maybe even several reasons! Don’t ignore the “bad” parts of the relationship and idealize the best parts…instead, keep reminding yourself that you’re letting go of the past because holding on to it isn’t good for you.

Accept that your loss may always hurt or confuse you

Some things, we never ever get over — but we can still live full, rewarding lives and achieve our goals! Part of letting go of someone you love is accepthing that you may never have all the answers. For instance, my sister cut me out of her life five years ago. She told me she didn’t want to speak to me again and wouldn’t tell me why. That was the ultimate lesson in powerlessness and letting go…and that’s why I wrote Letting Go of Someone You Love.

Accept your lack of control over other people

No matter how “good”, smart, helpful, giving, or attractive you are, you can’t control other people. If they leave you, they have their reasons…and sometimes those reasons have nothing to do with you. The sooner you accept your lack of control, the easier it’ll be to let go of someone you love.

Rebuild yourself

Your losses, heartbreaks, setbacks, and disappointments have made you a different person — a better, more unique, more compassionate person! Instead of mourning what was or what could have been, start something new in your life. Think about what goals you should set for your life. Volunteer, take a solo vacation, join a new gym, take a night class, join a support group, check out a new social club, quit your job, and set new life goals. Rebuild your life — set new life goals.

Remember that letting go of love doesn’t happen overnight

Letting go of the past isn’t something you do once – and poof! You’re free, healed, and happy! Rather, letting go is a journey peppered with steps forward and steps backward, good days and bad days. I grew up in foster homes, and was constantly saying hello and good-bye to new families, friends, and cities. I learned how to love, let go, and open my heart to love again. And I’ve survived those heart-wrenching, gut-twisting breakups that slam you to the ground and rip you to pieces. Letting go is a process that takes time.

Joe Cocker - You Are So Beautiful

There is just no other,  no face, voice, hair, soul, or being that I see as having any beauty at all.

It's just too late for my recovery of what was lost due to lack of recognition.  For family and Anna, all so much beauty, once clouded by life's overwhelming demands and my confusion.

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Eric Clapton & Joe Cocker You Are So Beautiful Live ARMS '83